mentoring

mentoring

while i don’t consider myself to be that old...i figure being closer to 40 than to 30 puts me ahead of a lot of women out there.  a friend of mine and i were discussing the passage in the bible that tells the older women to mentor the younger women.  i don’t usually consider myself to be someone who has great insight as to what the bible says.  or someone who can articulate it well anyway.  but that doesn’t remove my responsibility.  so here it goes.

in my 36 years, there is one thing that pretty much drives me crazy.  it’s how i determine someone’s spiritual age.  it’s how i determine those who i will allow to be close to me.  it’s how i determine who i trust.  it’s gossip.  when i hear it, i will likely not be good friends with the person doing it.  why?  because i don’t trust my name...in their mouth.  if someone will talk about other people to you, they will talk about you to other people.  and that, i just don’t care for.  the other reason i don’t like to be around gossips... they make it easier to gossip.  and i don’t want to gossip!  i feel convicted about gossiping.  i am suppose to feel convicted about gossip.  gossip is wrong.  it makes me uncomfortable.  it should make everyone uncomfortable.  

moving on,  while it may or may not be considered gossip.  i don’t like it when people tell  someone else’s business.  or when someone else tells my business.  a few years back i decided that if it’s not my story to tell....then i’m not going to tell it.  IT’S NOT MY NEWS TO TELL!  i know people who seem to thrive on being the first to tell everyone’s news.  good, bad or otherwise.  i don’t want to be that person.  just because i know things...doesn’t mean i have to tell things.  i promise, being the person that doesn’t share other people’s business...will get you in a lot less trouble.  some may say, if it’s good news, it’s ok.  as a general rule, i tend to disagree.  if that person wants everyone to know....they will tell everyone.  in the mean time, our best bet is to be quiet.  

i realize that sometimes things come out of our mouths that shouldn’t.  for some of us more than others.  the important thing is that we are aware of when we have said something we shouldn’t have.  DON’T JUSTIFY IT!  just plead guilty, ask forgiveness, and DON’T do it again!